Learning Not To Care

"Learning Not to Care: The Kingdom Wisdom of Letting Go"

There comes a time in every believer’s journey when the Lord invites us to examine the weight we carry. Not just physically, but emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. And if we're honest, many of us are carrying burdens that were never ours to bear in the first place.

We care too much.

We care about opinions that do not reflect God’s truth.
We care about outcomes we were never called to control.
We care about fixing what only the Holy Spirit can heal.

And in that misplaced care, we forfeit peace, mismanage energy, and delay the Kingdom's work in our lives and in the lives of others.

But hear this truth: Learning not to care about certain things is not apathy—it is authority. It is Kingdom.

The Apostle Peter wrote with great clarity in 1 Peter 5:7:

“Cast all your care upon Him, for He cares for you.”

This isn’t just a comforting verse; it’s a command with a promise. We were never designed to be the caretakers of every situation. God has given us assignments, not ownership of every outcome. He never asked us to carry the full weight of things He alone governs.

When “I Don’t Care” is Actually Kingdom

Many believers wrestle with guilt when they find themselves no longer caring about certain matters or people’s perceptions. But what if I told you that the phrase “I don’t care” can sometimes be the most spiritually mature thing a believer can say?

“I don’t care” doesn’t mean I don’t love you.
It means I’m not going to let this situation pull me away from what God has called me to do.
It means I trust God more than I trust my own hands to fix this.
It means I recognize the line between stewardship and the savior complex.

This is not cold-heartedness; it is mission clarity.

Even Jesus, full of compassion, walked past certain villages, left people unhealed, and did not chase everyone who walked away. Why? Because He was clear on His mission, He refused to let misplaced care become a distraction from His purpose.

The Danger of Misplaced Care

Caring about everything is not noble—it’s dangerous. It spreads us thin, fractures our focus, and steals the stillness we need to hear God clearly. We were not made to manage everyone’s feelings, fix every broken thing, or hold our breath hoping others will approve our obedience.

Proverbs 4:23 instructs us:

“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.”

Guarding your heart often means filtering your cares.
Let God be God. Let outcomes belong to Him. Let people have their opinions. Let doors close that were never meant to open.

The EPIC Invitation: Let Go, and Let God Move

At EPIC Fellowship Church, we want to empower you to live with Kingdom freedom. That means learning how to let go of what doesn’t serve your assignment. We are not called to micromanage life—we are called to walk by faith, sow good seed, and let God bring the increase.

It’s time to remove ourselves from outcomes that aren’t ours to determine.
It’s time to stop drowning in cares that were meant to be cast.
It’s time to say, “I don’t care”—not because we’re cold, but because we’re called.

And if someone doesn’t understand that?

It’s not personal. It’s missional.

In His Care,
Pastor Frank Henderson
EPIC Fellowship Church
"Empowering People In Christ."
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